So what can you do? Here are some suggestions:
1. Don't ignore your doubts
Your emotions, or your relief about finally finding someone who wants you, will cloud your judgment. If your instincts are telling you something is wrong, pay attention. Set aside your romantic feelings or business feelings and critically evaluate exactly what your con artist is proposing to you.
Your emotions, or your relief about finally finding someone who wants you, will cloud your judgment. If your instincts are telling you something is wrong, pay attention. Set aside your romantic feelings or business feelings and critically evaluate exactly what your con artist is proposing to you.
2. Verify the story
Try to check anything that he or she told you—place of birth, military service, job history. If you find discrepancies and confront your con artist about them, be prepared. He or she will probably try to explain them away, or attack you for not being trusting.
Try to check anything that he or she told you—place of birth, military service, job history. If you find discrepancies and confront your con artist about them, be prepared. He or she will probably try to explain them away, or attack you for not being trusting.
3. Ask your friends what they think
Your friends will assume that you know what you're doing, and they won't want to throw a wet blanket on your happiness. So even if they don't like the guy or gal, they will not say anything—unless you ask for their honest opinions. If they are suspicious, listen to them.
Your friends will assume that you know what you're doing, and they won't want to throw a wet blanket on your happiness. So even if they don't like the guy or gal, they will not say anything—unless you ask for their honest opinions. If they are suspicious, listen to them.
4. Ask for a credit check
To proceed with a credit check, you have two legal options:
To proceed with a credit check, you have two legal options:
- Get permission from your con artist to do the check, in writing.
- Ask your con artist to get his or her own credit reports and show them to you.
This is risky emotionally, but you'll find out if the person really cares about you. Someone who truly loves you might be offended, but will understand. A sociopath who is out to fleece you will get angry, tell you any credit problems are not his or her fault, or disappear.
5. Be honest with yourself
Would you be thinking about giving this person money if he or she wasn't saying, "I love you?" or playing the "family" card or showing a strange sudden interest your family.
Would you be thinking about giving this person money if he or she wasn't saying, "I love you?" or playing the "family" card or showing a strange sudden interest your family.
This was from his cousin in an email.
ReplyDelete"The story isn’t over, I just haven’t written about it for a while, it’s draining, it a crazy way that you can understand unless you’ve gone through it. If you have been metaphorically raped by a sociopath, it is a horrifying experience with long lasting feelings.
I just can’t remember ever feeling this way, when I was diagnosed with cancer, when my dad died, when the worst possible things had happened to me, it still didn’t come close to the feeling I had once Ron had come in and destroyed my peaceful life. He didn't get that much financially (although it was enough to make me really mad) he robbed me of my general trust for the population and that is what has me so..............
I am LOVING all the information out there on Ron. Step out on that limb, let’s keep it coming, it’s time to get our lives back!!"